Being a parent is one of the most challenging roles we will ever have in our lives and unfortunately our contemporary society gives absolutely no training on how to be a good parent. We all love our kids but from my experience the ABC’s of parenting which are the love, common sense and natural instinct were not enough for me to help me raise my kids in a way that was serving them.
Learning the EFG’s of Parenting helped me transform my life and the lives of parents who learn them.
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The EFG’s are 3 powerful tools that will help you create an amazing bond between you and your kids, make your life more peaceful and help you raise children to be responsible, capable, thankful, and resilient with high emotional intelligence.
So it’s simple!!
You give them what they NEED and they give you back what YOU NEED which is peace and cooperation.
Kid’s core emotional needs are love, connection and autonomy. When we don’t meet those needs, unpleasant reactions such as whining, not listening, ignoring, fighting with each other will occur on a daily basis. And sometimes we use parenting tactics to make them behave like yelling, punishing, threatening, bribing which might work in the short run but has negative effects on the child in the long run.
So does that mean we don’t hold our kids accountable when they do something wrong? No. We need to hold them accountable.
So one of the ways to correct misbehaviour with children (aged 4yrs+) that will leave you and them feeling good about each other is through Consequences.
And you might say but consequence is still a punishment! And I assure you that they are worlds apart especially if the consequence was said in a respectful way, was revealed in advance not in any angry moment, and the consequence was related to the misbehaviour.
So for example: if you say to your child “You didn’t pick up your toys so no iPad tonight!!” That feels like a punishment because the consequence is not related to the misbehaviour of leaving toys on the floor, was said in anger and spur of the moment.
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– Tanya Fakhoury, Peaceful Parenting Coach, The Change Associates
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